Comments on: In my solitude.. http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/ Fri, 25 Jul 2008 18:19:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=MU By: al. http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-31 al. Mon, 10 Mar 2008 17:33:28 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-31 Interesting observation Saha. Well, it feels like it's real for most people, doesn't it? When you have assets (the house, the car, the job)..doesn't that make you feel like you're treading on solid ground? It may be a barren ground, but it is solid nevertheless, no? But I get what you mean by 'real'. You mean an existence pumping with life and meaning, right? If so, then yeah of course, a material existence is as unreal as it gets. Well! I hope I will be helping with those renovations and more this summer. And yes, when you realize that you hold something someone else who is less privileged needs, it adds so much more value to that which you have. It can really humble you. Interesting observation Saha. Well, it feels like it’s real for most people, doesn’t it? When you have assets (the house, the car, the job)..doesn’t that make you feel like you’re treading on solid ground? It may be a barren ground, but it is solid nevertheless, no? But I get what you mean by ‘real’. You mean an existence pumping with life and meaning, right?

If so, then yeah of course, a material existence is as unreal as it gets.

Well! I hope I will be helping with those renovations and more this summer. And yes, when you realize that you hold something someone else who is less privileged needs, it adds so much more value to that which you have. It can really humble you.

]]> By: Saha http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-30 Saha Mon, 10 Mar 2008 03:46:17 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-30 This is beautifully written, obviously the journalist blood! 'In a way, I think, he wanted to materialize his existence because he felt like he was holding onto thin air.' I particularly like this. But is materializing your existence any more real than holding onto a dream? Are you going to help with the renovations? Dependency is a beautiful thing and to be depended on is an honour. This is beautifully written, obviously the journalist blood!
‘In a way, I think, he wanted to materialize his existence because he felt like he was holding onto thin air.’
I particularly like this. But is materializing your existence any more real than holding onto a dream?
Are you going to help with the renovations? Dependency is a beautiful thing and to be depended on is an honour.

]]> By: al. http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-29 al. Sat, 08 Mar 2008 08:55:29 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-29 Calf, expression of mushy feelings to family is forbidden territory to most people I know, myself included. I'm not sure if that's a good thing though. I'm not a mushy-feeling type of person with anyone anyways, but I've been feeling more and more obliged to express some feelings towards my family. I feel like they don't know me at all. Because we're different but also because I've never made an effort to explain myself to them. It gets more difficult with time which gives me a sense of urgency to do something about this gap before any one of us regrets the fact that it's too late, you know? I also feel that my dad needs to know I see him this way because I want him to know he's secretly been my role model for a while now. I think it'll do him good knowing his struggle didn't go to vain. Calf, expression of mushy feelings to family is forbidden territory to most people I know, myself included. I’m not sure if that’s a good thing though. I’m not a mushy-feeling type of person with anyone anyways, but I’ve been feeling more and more obliged to express some feelings towards my family. I feel like they don’t know me at all. Because we’re different but also because I’ve never made an effort to explain myself to them. It gets more difficult with time which gives me a sense of urgency to do something about this gap before any one of us regrets the fact that it’s too late, you know?

I also feel that my dad needs to know I see him this way because I want him to know he’s secretly been my role model for a while now. I think it’ll do him good knowing his struggle didn’t go to vain.

]]> By: Calf http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-27 Calf Fri, 07 Mar 2008 06:56:44 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-27 There's your mystery. Neither party knows what the other is thinking. You think he wasn't raising you that way. He most likely thinks you don't see him the way you do. I don't know about other people, but sharing mushy feelings like that with immediate family members is absolutely off-limits for me. It's material for movies and books only, not real life. Am I alone in this? Or is this a guys-only thing? There’s your mystery. Neither party knows what the other is thinking. You think he wasn’t raising you that way. He most likely thinks you don’t see him the way you do.

I don’t know about other people, but sharing mushy feelings like that with immediate family members is absolutely off-limits for me. It’s material for movies and books only, not real life. Am I alone in this? Or is this a guys-only thing?

]]> By: al. http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-26 al. Thu, 06 Mar 2008 04:25:39 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-26 Hmmm, I see. Wouldn't it be great if my dad was consciously instilling all these thoughts and feelings in me? I doubt it was like that, though. I think what happened was that my dad was going through an epic struggle in his life, in which his identity as a person was roughly shaken. He had to deal with becoming an exile almost overnight (because he was unjustly prohibited from entering Palestine after having lived there his entire life). I just happened to witness this mental trauma. It definitely left an imprint on me; it's tough seeing your own dad breaking and fighting to stand firm for what he believes. By the way, he has no idea I'm moved by him this way. Hmmm, I see. Wouldn’t it be great if my dad was consciously instilling all these thoughts and feelings in me? I doubt it was like that, though. I think what happened was that my dad was going through an epic struggle in his life, in which his identity as a person was roughly shaken. He had to deal with becoming an exile almost overnight (because he was unjustly prohibited from entering Palestine after having lived there his entire life). I just happened to witness this mental trauma. It definitely left an imprint on me; it’s tough seeing your own dad breaking and fighting to stand firm for what he believes.

By the way, he has no idea I’m moved by him this way.

]]> By: Calf http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-25 Calf Wed, 05 Mar 2008 10:14:05 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-25 Heh, my memory of the book is a glorious blur at best, but I remember how the female protagonist (Sophia, or was it Marlene?) mentions how her grandfather was secretly raising her as his successor by challenging her to solve tiny cryptices and puzzles from an early age, and then only when the events of the plot unfolded did she realize that she was meant to inherit his legacy and act on his behalf, because only then did his past actions and mode of upbringing make sense. ...this is only relevant to the second-half of the last paragraph in your post. Heh, my memory of the book is a glorious blur at best, but I remember how the female protagonist (Sophia, or was it Marlene?) mentions how her grandfather was secretly raising her as his successor by challenging her to solve tiny cryptices and puzzles from an early age, and then only when the events of the plot unfolded did she realize that she was meant to inherit his legacy and act on his behalf, because only then did his past actions and mode of upbringing make sense.

…this is only relevant to the second-half of the last paragraph in your post.

]]> By: al. http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-24 al. Wed, 05 Mar 2008 04:20:46 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-24 Calf, haha! I've read the book 2 years back but I'm not quite sure what sounding like her would mean? :S Dinos I will post the entire thing one day -- right now, I feel too personal about it :D You should write your own self-p! God knows you have a lot to say. Calf, haha! I’ve read the book 2 years back but I’m not quite sure what sounding like her would mean? :S

Dinos I will post the entire thing one day — right now, I feel too personal about it :D You should write your own self-p! God knows you have a lot to say.

]]> By: Dino$ http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-23 Dino$ Wed, 05 Mar 2008 04:16:30 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-23 Thank u aloosh for sharing but i want it ALL!!! LOVELY! Thank u aloosh for sharing but i want it ALL!!!

LOVELY!

]]> By: Calf http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/2008/02/29/in-my-solitude/#comment-21 Calf Tue, 04 Mar 2008 19:04:25 +0000 http://ismellolives.wordpress.com/?p=12#comment-21 ...sorry for not contributing anything meaningful, but it's funny how you sound like the granddaughter from The Da Vinci Code :S …sorry for not contributing anything meaningful, but it’s funny how you sound like the granddaughter from The Da Vinci Code :S

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